Everyone secretly wants one whether they care to admit it or not. The idea of being doted upon by a well-to-do older gentleman, better known as a sugar daddy, is something we all entertain the idea of but very few of us ever obtain.
Having a sugar daddy has been highlighted a number of times in many a television show or film – Will from Will & Grace meets a generous older art lover, Sex and the City’s Samantha gets showered with expensive jewellery until she sees his saggy butt, Queer As Folk’s Emmett gets spoilt by his older lover until he croaks while they are joining the mile high club. It goes on, sometimes to the point of life imitating art – see Anna Nicole Smith and oil tycoon J. Howard Marshall.
But think about it for a moment. Imagine being showered with gifts, the prospect of travel, dining at the finest restaurants and attending the glitziest soirées all for a little slap and tickle. As Samantha says to her appalled girlfriends “All cats look the same in the dark”. Ewwww. Reverse that.
But if you entertain the thought for a moment, you too could be living the glamorous life, just remember that not every sugar daddy qualifies for a Seniors Card. Think about those sucked and tucked peroxide blond, tan-in-a-can bitches that strut down Melbourne’s Chapel St, Sydney’s Castlereagh St, New York’s 5th Avenue or Paris’ Boulevard Haussmann with their well-to-do hot boyfriends. Damn lucky sluts.
One friend was offered a seemingly chance of a lifetime when a cute 30-something dotcom millionaire from Boston. After spending the night dirty dancing with each other and some hot and heavy petting in a Boston bar, the millionaire offered him the chance to come down every second weekend (or was it every weekend?) to spend time with him and essentially become his boyfriend. All expenses paid.
What more could one ask for? Hot sex with a hot millionaire who wanted to spoil him every weekend. He refused. He had his reasons and after much discussion, I finally understood why he felt that it was wrong to dupe someone like that. I respect him for his decision. And although I would have jumped at the chance in a heartbeat, it was reassuring to know that there were people who didn’t think immediately like me.
Essentially it comes down to loving the person. I guess the lure of all those gifts and adornment would be enticing for most of us, but if there is no love there (whether it is there immediately or it grows as time goes on) then a sugar daddy is only sweet until the sweetness dissolves.